User blog comment:Dirael/Why can't we be friends?/@comment-38884057-20190508230434

I agree with you wholeheartedly on a lot of what you've said, because DARP truly is becoming a mess in terms of user relations, but I think we also need to acknowledge several things. Among them being: the demotion votes were, unfortunately, needed, in accordance with the policies that were violated, and that isn't really a personal thing. I don't think literally any of us want anyone demoted, let alone kicked out of DARP or worse - banned. But we do need to acknowledge the bureaucrats have the difficult job of ensuring DARP remains a place with integrity and upholds all the right values. It doesn't mean we have to like it, but they have to do it because that's their job. Furthermore, there's always been people who actively wanna stab others in the back. That's never changed, and likely never will. I don't like it, and please take my word when I say I'd love to help put an end to it, but... it's literally next to impossible, given the state of the community and the clashing personalities of different users. What I am confused about is the part about blog posts actively saying unpleasant things about users? As far as I'm concerned, that hasn't happened? Though perhaps I'm wrong - we're human, it happens.

Unfortunately, not everyone is able to grasp the concept of being nice to everyone. Emotions get in the way of being objective, people misinterpret things, and everyone bottles up emotions to the point of explosive repercussions. Like, we've seen what repressed emotions look like many, many times. But we literally have a department specifically designed to deal with people's emotions, and virtually nobody likes to use it. Everyone's feelings are valid, and we can't really discredit that by telling them to keep it to themselves - just keep it off DARP, preferably between you and HR, and please, please, please, just don't let it get in the way of everyone else's fun in DARP. Even if it's harder said than done, it's still possible, and I say this because I'm highkey sick of people saying "but it's hard!!!". Jesus Christ, it's still possible. I do it. The bureaucrats probably do it. Hell, even the hella old users that have miraculously stuck around probably do it, too. Keeping personal issues away from DARP isn't impossible.

Again, I agree with you on mostly everything!! Just confused on that one blog thing. And, of course, I'm also posting this comment in hopes people will read it and, I don't know, maybe process it and let it click that everyone's got a stake in this.

Also, it's difficult, articulating something so "controversial" in such a non-controversial way, but you did it!! Kudos to you.