User blog:Alyssa5582/A World Divided

Coming in today and seeing DARP, my home, my love, and my sanctuary, torn apart by an unnecessary explosion is absolutley heart-wrenching, and honestly ridiculous. Personally, I don't want to be on either side of the argument, and can't even comprehend why everything that has happened recently has been blown up so much. Can we not dicuss things maturely? Must everything always be taken so personal? Can we try to view things in the eyes of a differing opinion instead of be so absorbed with our own thoughts and beliefs, causing us to stay in tense and arduous stalemate, with nothing be resolved at all. Anytime an issue occurs, this happens, and it's absolutely ludicrous. I know people always want things to be done in their favor, and the wiki to be how they'd like it. But that's not how the world works. Sometimes, you have to give in to what you may not agree with, but this is where compromise comes in. Do some give and take, but DONT just sit here yelling at each other, holding your ideals with a death grip. We'll get now where in a path to resolution, and this is why we return to this same thing every single time there's a major discrepancy. TALK THINGS OUT PEACEFULLY. Come to an understanding. See where others might be coming from. Sometimes, you might have to admit you were wrong. That's ok. We can't be right all the time. Again, that's not how the world works.

I understand that rants are needed, I really do. I'm doing it now. But, maybe see how doing it in a public place could be bad. How someone could come across it and seriously be hurt by it. Maybe rant privately, and if you have a problem with someone, discuss it with them. And if you happen to come across someone else's rant, try to see where they're coming from. What issues are important to them and what might be causing them to act that way. Talk with them about the problems they have, and how they can be resolved.Don't immediately take it as negative or personal, because you may not know the context, or even how they're feeling to bring out these rants. TALK THINGS THROUGH AND BE COURTEOUS OF OTHERS. Isn't that what we've always been taught? Treat others with respect, even if you might not agree with them. That's common decency. There's no need to use hurtful or degrading words. There's no reason at all to take discussions into a negative light..It juts makes things worse.

Are issues like ths really worth tearing our community apart? Is there really a need for the division being created? In my opinion, no. Nothing I've seen from the issues being presented needs to result in stepping down, leaving, or seceding to make your own wiki. We've all built an amazing community here together, with so much time, effort, and care put in by every single member. You may now see it, but every single one of you have made an impact here. Is it really worth throwing it all away because there's a disagreement going on? Instead of leaving behind a place we love scattered in ruins, why not come together to rebuild both it and relationships. There's no reason why we can't get along and work to make DARP a better place. You bring your ideas, I'll bring mine, and we can cooperate to make a cohesive environent. Compromise. See what might work and what might now. Listen to the ideas of others, and see your ideas from another's eyes. Sometimes, it can make a world of difference. I don't want to see any of you feel like you have to leave or step down from a position you might be in. I want to be able to support you, as well as the community support each other. Why tear each other down? It seems like a lot more working that building each other up. I'm not asking for you all to be best friends and to agree on every single thing. That's not realistic. But, I am asking for you to be civil and open. That's 100% possible. If you don't think so, then that's on you.

I want to see the place and people I love flourish, but we can't do that if we're constantly beating each other and their ideas down. We all came here with similar interests and desires. Even if we all have different means of expressin those interests and meeting those desires.We all want to get to the same place, but there's nothing wrong with different paths. Can we work together and make DARP even better than it has been. Can we rebuild any relationships that may have been tarnished and worn down? Can build an open and caring community? One that allows for the peaceful cooperation, discussion, and integration of ideas. Absolutely. We just need to do it together.

You are, and always have been, my dream.  I love you more than there are stars in the sky and fish in the sea.  22:28, October 17, 2016 (UTC)